online dating

It's a new world. Ever thought you would log on into cyber space as a social scene? God knows I never thought it was a good idea. It's 2010, I've been divorced for almost 2 years and no time to get out and meet single men. The operative word being single. Single, without a commitment to anther woman or man. This whole metro sexual thing has blurred the lines. I want a real man, not a second best to what he thinks he should or supposed to be. My life is made up of teenagers (that I do live for), church, school work, and the neighborhood in which I live. So the kids continue to keep me busy, everyone is married within the circles of the city...I'm not much for the bar scene; okay, I jumped into cyber space. Many of my friends have told me how much fun this is; well here's a few things I think need to be shared right off the back. Men, you really shouldn't put up bare chested pictures as your profile shot; pictures of your dog licking your face, not so hot either; landscaping pictures of where you've traveled? really?; the famed picture of you with a newborn on your shoulder, yikes! I could go on, but I think everyone is already in agreement on this. Okay, so I bite the bullet and give it a go. First meeting; guy shows up and he's 50 to 70 pounds heavier than his pictures. Hello? Did you think I wouldn't notice this extra growth? We're not talking about a few extra holiday pounds. What else are you lying about? Note for future: ask if the pictures are recent. Next... decent looking guy (so much for my idea about reading the profiles before looking at pictures), sounds nice enough. A glass of wine. Good visit at a local restaurant. My new found dating coach tells me after, don't meet at regular spots where others can pop in on you. He seem to like himself, a lot. Apparently no bells for me. Oh well... next. Another meet over a drink at another local restaurant (oops). The place was packed, the guy got nervous (let's not sweat the small stuff). We chatted, had a drink, left friendly. The ongoing emails, a couple of phone calls; interesting. I will say there's some great ego boosters out there too. How about the young guns who send sweet notes. I am beginning to see how the cougar thing got started (still could never go there, but I understand it better). Good looking 29 plus, but no! Pass a decade, um eventually you do need to have a conversation. Boundaries, ethics, morals... you need guidelines to work with, especially in this new cyber world. Meeting some new friends. Having some great laughs. A couple of drinks here and there. A new piece of life. How odd is this?